Reality

It has been rougly a week since I started this blog, and in that week I have received a great deal of criticism (a little praise, but mostly criticism) on the blog. I have to admit that the criticism has weighed on my conscience. It's because I really respect the opinion of those who have expressed disapproval that I have decided to clean up the blog. You'll notice that Cruel Intentions part 1 and 2 (aka Sequels Are Always Worse) are now gone. Someone called it mysogynistic, which is clearly incorrect. No part of this blog supresses women, even in the least bit, and I'd challenge anyone to argue (coherently) that it does. Other criticisms have been that it's tacky, which is probably true. But the biggest criticism came from my friend Brenna...

I had a fairly long conversation with her last night (just over 3 hours), and we talked about the blog a bit. She said that if she didn't know me and read the blog, she'd probably hate me. I was floored. I'm not this type of person. Most of my friends know this (after all, they are my friends for a reason). That was the biggest incentive to refocus this thing.

Brenna also told me something that it proving to be a gigantic pill to swallow. She pontificated that it is virtually impossible to get over someone in any time period shorter than roughly a year. I respect and trust her opinion, so it's hard for me to say she's flat out wrong. I'd guess I'd like to believe that I am capable of getting over someone much sooner, especially since I buy into the notion that the best way to get over someone is to meet someone else. The problem is that the "someone else" could be the "rebound" person. Because of this, I have decided that I will not date anyone, because it would be incredibly wrong to lead a girl on as if you like her and know all along that she's just filling a convenience void. I still think it's ok to hook up with different people. Granted, many women tend to get attached (I really do think I am a decent looking guy and my personality is what attracts people to me) more easily than guys, so I would need to develop an understanding of the situation with any girl I wanted to get with. I really don't want to hurt people. No one deserves to be hurt because of something that I am going through.

Anyway, I hope this helps to set some things straight. I want more people to comment. Our friend Laura just mailed in a comment, which was very much appreciated.